A pair of flaming trousers (or a growing nose, à la
Pinocchio) isn’t the only sign that a person is spewing falsehoods. Here, five
experts teach you how to smoke out a fibber.
A Person’s Demeanor or Voice Radically Changes
As an investigator, I first try to assess how someone
normally speaks. To do that, I begin an interview by asking questions that I
know the answers to, like “What’s your full name?” or “Where do you live?” Some
folks are naturally animated and talk fast; others are more subdued. Once I
know which type of talker a person is, I start asking him questions that I
don’t know the answer to. If his manner shifts abruptly—going from calm to
agitated or lively to mellow—chances are he’s not telling the truth.
Gregg McCrary is a retired FBI criminal profiler and a crime
analyst in Fredericksburg, Virginia.
A Person Avoids Saying “I”
In my research, I’ve discovered that when people fib about
themselves, they tend to use I and me less often than people who are being
truthful. Instead, they’ll speak about themselves in the third person (“This is
a girl who loves to ski”) or even truncate their language (“Really into
listening to jazz”)—anything to give themselves psychological distance from the
lie.
Jeffrey Hancock is an associate professor of communication
at Cornell University who studies online lying.
A Person Has an Answer for Everything
Ask most people what they were doing last week and they’ll
have to pause and think about it. That’s even more true of teenagers, who
generally don’t have the capacity to tell an elaborate story on the fly. So
when I call a child into my office and he seems totally rehearsed—there’s zero
hesitation before he answers a question—well, that’s a dead giveaway.
Julia Chung has been an educator for 16 years, first as a
high school teacher in Los Angeles
A Person Fidgets and Fusses for No Reason
If someone keeps performing a random physical action that
seems unnecessary—cleaning her glasses excessively, retying her shoelaces, or
dusting off the (clean) table in front of her—she may be lying. The guilt and
anxiety make her restless. That can be particularly true if she is lying to
somebody she loves. When a person fibs to a traffic cop, she won’t necessarily
fidget a lot. But if she is deceiving her husband, she won’t be able to sit
still.
Barbara Mitchell has been a relationship therapist in New
York City for 34 years.
Taken from: http://www.realsimple.com/work-life/life-strategies/how-to-tell-someone-lying/fidgets-no-reason
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